Some time ago I decided that I would blog about forgiveness and letting go. As I learn myself and try to understand forgiveness within my own life, I share it with you. Forgiveness for me would be letting go of grudges, ill-feelings and hurt that comes with the disappointment of actions of loved ones that offend and hurt us. We all as humans have been hurt by another in a way that has left us with the burden of negative feelings. Regardless of how it came about being hurt by a loved one can be anything, something so small as a personal “jab” or something as disappointing as a devastating lie can leave us with the emotions of hate, anger and bitterness. Getting over those feelings and coping and understanding them is true forgiveness.
For me the main reason I am trying to forgive and move past negative situations is because I’m trying to become a more positive understanding person. Becoming a mother has changed me in a way that I feel I need to constantly seek a deeper understanding in all areas of my life. I’m discovering where some of my personal issues started and how I can get past and overcome them. I’ve forgiven many things in my life but I’m still a work in progress there’s just some things that seem impossible for me to leave behind. Its hard for me to let go of resentment because I feel that the resentment becomes the counter action to whatever is done to me and I feel as though I always need a counter action as a sense of defense.
Holding a grudge and having resentment is so easy letting it go becomes the impossible. What I’ve started to do is take note off all instances that I feel as though I’ve been wronged that I haven’t gotten past and of how letting go will benefit me. On my end I’m left with the negative feelings I need to get rid of them. Holding onto the pain instead of forgiving is burying me and I’m only learning why I should let go now. For a peace of mind, being a happier more joyous person overall and most of all trusting loving and caring for my loved ones holds more of an significance than holding on to the affliction. With forgiveness you refuse to suffer with the hand you’ve been dealt instead you are understanding and conquering and coping.
As I said earlier I am not perfect ( I know hard to believe lol) and I’m still learning. As I grow I hope you can do so with me. Regardless of the pain don’t hold on to it. The pain you hold on to becomes you eventually. Understand, Accept and Move On.
“The temple of the most high begins with the body which houses our life, the essence of our existence. Africans are in bondage today because they approach spirituality through religion provided by foreign invaders and conquerors. We must stop confusing religion and spirituality. Religion is a set of rules, regulations and rituals created by humans, which was suppose to help people grow spiritually. Due to human imperfection religion has become corrupt, political, divisive and a tool for power struggle. Spirituality is not theology or ideology. It is simply a way of life, pure and original as was given by the Most High of Creation. Spirituality is a network linking us to the Most High, the universe, and each other…”
― Haile Selassie I